A biweekly newsletter for dreamers, builders and creators to achieve (get things done), heal (fix what’s broken) and discover (learn something new). I am a licensed clinician, purposefully provoking security in others.
Energy, Rest and Parents- AHD Issue #6
Achieve, Heal and Discover Issue #6
A biweekly newsletter to help you achieve, heal and discover in ways that improve your life and relationships.
Achieve: Work with your LOW energy
As much as you need to "sit down and write that email" your low energy may make this task an uphill battle.
Here is my secret to productivity: I learn to follow my energy.
To do this I've borken down all of my projects into tasks. Then I associated each task with an energy level.
For example: Here are the kinds of tasks I focus on when my energy is low:
- Brain dump new ideas with no judgement
- Complete task done that do not require thinking or feeling
- Archive old projects
- Journal my thoughts
I created an entire flow chart on how I follow my energy. It's all yours here: https://miro.com/app/board/o9J_l10IaUU=/?invite_link_id=443240518731
Heal: How to Rest
Most of us do not need more self-care, instead we need REST!
Here is the struggle- in order to actually rest you have to let go of control. You have to believe that in this exact moment, you have done enough, for now.
Here are 3 words that will get you there:
Acceptance
Accept the reality you are in. The chaos isn't going anywhere right now. Can you just be present in this moment?
Change
Stop the thing that is exhausting you and change to focus on something else. Replace your work with a different kind of work.
Surrender
I'll be talking alot more about rest in the near future. Stay tuned.
Discover: Parents are not happy
The early research is decisive. Having kids is bad for quality of life.
One study found that parents experieced a decrease in happiness that doesn't go away for a long time.
Here is the catch:
It isn't the children themselves but what it cost to raise them.
The collective experience of attachment, memories and love supersede the overall decrease in quality of life and adds a sense of meaning.
Happiness is temporary.
Meaning can be handed down to genereations.
You can read more here: https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/11/does-having-kids-make-you-happy/620576/
Take care!
Edvardo Archer
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